How to Deal with Stranger Anxiety in Babies and Toddlers

Stanger anxiety is a form of distress or fear of people with whom a child is not familiar. An infant learns to identify the parents and can notice a difference between other people at around fourth month. They undergo a period of fear and discomfort when they meet strangers.

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Stranger anxiety is a form of distress or fear of people with whom a child is not familiar. An infant learns to identify the parents and can notice a difference between other people at around fourth month. They undergo a period of fear and discomfort when they meet strangers.

The child may burst into tears or screech when they come in an eye contact to communicate or play. This stranger anxiety is a normal part of a child’s cognitive development and an indicator of mental development. It starts around four or eight months and lasts into the child’s second year. These responses arise when the baby has reached a stage of mental development where he/she can differentiate her caretakers from other people and has a strong predilection for acquainted faces.

STRANGER ANXIETY
STRANGER ANXIETY

Here are few tips on how to handle stranger anxiety:

• Look at signs of anxiety
Study your child and know them better. Every child is different and so is their responses. Some might shy off and hide behind parents and some might cry and yell when the strangers try to have an eye
contact. These are the signs of stranger anxiety and that’s when you need to act immediately. Infants might react vigorously to strangers if approached suddenly. The child may be particularly upset around who look different to them, like men who have beard or people who wear glasses.These observations can be helpful when you want your child to meet people as you will know the trigger points beforehand.

• Prepare guests before meeting the baby
Stranger anxiety is just a phase and very common amongst young children. Don’t be ashamed of it and feel low that your child is not a social baby. Let your family and friends know that your little precious shows distress around strangers and might need some time to warm up. That can take days, weeks or months. Request them to give enough personal space to your baby and not to rush their introduction.

STRANGER ANXIETY
STRANGER ANXIETY

• Create a trusted environment
As parents, it is very important to respect baby’s personal space. When guests visit, it can get overwhelming for both the parents and guests as they are meeting a little bundle of joy. This cannot be perceived by the child, all they know is that the other person is not the caregiver but a stranger. It’s parents’ responsibility to create a trusted environment. When you force a child to communicate to a stranger against their will it creates a very bad impression and they will be emotionally hurt. They will have no clue about who their trusted partner is. Obviously greater attention has to paid to raise a deaf or a blind child.

• Introduce new people in a familiar environment.
To start off with a healthy introduction always invite people to your house to meet the child so that your baby is in a comfortable and familiar environment. If you are outside, always hold your baby when a stranger comes to meet and do not hand over the baby immediately. When the caregiver is around, let the stranger approach the baby by talking softly and offering a favourite toy or by singing their favourite rhyme. Sometimes this reduces distress and the baby might react positively.

STRANGER ANXIETY
STRANGER ANXIETY

• Soothe your baby’s fear by taking it slow and building a safe relationship.
Lastly, babies are very delicate and it takes a lot of time for them to get accustomed to every new change. Soothe your child’s fear by taking things slow and build a safe relationship. Try to attend family gatherings and outings so that eventually the stranger anxiety diminishes. Never force them to sit or talk to a stranger if they don’t want to, it’s an unwise thing to do. Finally, they outgrow the fear and become tolerant to strangers.

How did you child overcome stranger anxiety? Did you provide enough time for them to cope up?
Let me know in the comments section below.

Until next time…
Sayonara!

6 COMMENTS

  1. Very important topic Mamatha. Stranger anxiety is something every child faces once they start getting more observant and start to understand the work around them. I like the point where we said beard or glasses also plays a major role. Most of the times, we overlook these minor details.

    I have tried to let the new people know that my kiddo is going through the anxiety phase so please give her some time to open up. In fact, I follow the same notion. Whenever I meet a small kid,I do jump into being friendly with them. I just follow their clues and soon they themselves come and start showing things.

  2. This was such a helpful read as my toddler is going through this phase and I hate to see tears rolling down every time some stranger tries to talk to her. Thank you for sharing this.

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