When your chatterboxes prefer staying at home than going to the market with you. When they are more reliant on peer relations than familial ones. It is time for you to realize that your child is now officially a teenager. Teenage can be a confusing time of change for children as well as parents. They will argue on every minute thing, they will answer back to your questions or statements, they will get angry easily and will prefer alone time.
When this happens, do not despair! It is absolutely natural and important for kids to break away from their parents at this age. This emotional separation allows them to become well-adjusted adults.
During these growing years, kids need their parents more than ever. It can be tempting to try to be their friend, but don’t forget they need the support and guidance a parent is best placed to give. The trick is to give them that guidance yet let them have enough room to strengthen their wings.
Accept: Accept the fact that children in their teenage never accept their parents’ suggestions and opinions. It’s normal and natural. As children grow, they have their own opinion and thinking. The problem is not with the parents, but no child in the world would say that his or her parent is more talented than him. Hence, he will argue to prove his point. It takes time and effort to make teenage children understand.
Appreciate their efforts: When the child is young, appreciation is more but in his growing years the appreciation keeps on reducing. As the appreciation decreases, their capacity to do work also gets less and the child starts becoming irritated and thus gets angry easily. So start appreciating the efforts of your teenage child for all the good things he or she has achieved.
Add on little excitement and adventure to their life: Stop being monotonous. As the child grows up, he needs more excitement in life. A growing teenage child is more interested in action movies and action games. Instead of going to a mall, take them to an adventurous place like an amusement park or water park. Play with them few outdoor games like badminton or cricket (I have learned balling by the way and badminton has been my love). At home, indulge in pillow fights or treasure hunt or boxing. Add a little adventure to their everyday life with you otherwise he will drift to his friends for these adventures and that may be a wrong direction.
Advice from others: As the child gets into their teenage, the value of parents gets a little less in their live. What it is rightly said “Ghar ki murgi dal barabar”. Find a coach, uncle, mentor, who has an influence on your child. Try to get advice from that person, he or she will definitely listen to that person’s advice.
Ask: As parents we usually give suggestions to our kids. But these teenage children have their egos built up by this time. He has the ‘me-factor’ developed in him. So whenever you try to give suggestions to him, he gets into an argument and answers back. So it’s better to ask him politely and let him give you a piece of his mind. Instead of advising him to go to study, ask him at what time will you study today? Give him options like, whether today you’ll study at 1 pm or 3 pm? The option chosen by him would be much better than an argument and he will be able to apply it as it was in his own words.
While these years can be difficult, there’s plenty you can do to nurture your teenage child and encourage responsible behaviour. Positive parenting works the best. Give your precious time to the kids and they will spread their love in your world.